Not all that gold that shines

Not all that gold that shine

Today I have visited an exhibition of one of my good familiar artist who perfectly well writes pictures. In his pictures I like the imagination of life, i.e. how he sees it and how he embodies it on a canvas. In some abstract pictures it is possible to see his thoughts and vision of that moment.

In «the Labyrinth of minotaur» - name of his picture, everyone can see something own. I have seen the strong girl who’s holding in a hand a spear, one guy has seen – a horse, other two foreigners have seen - the naked girl.

As you see, everyone sees and perceives their own character and internal perception of the world. 

However, how is it turns out? The artist saw one picture and wrote about it, but we see absolutely another one.

It became curious for me, – “What is hiding beyond our darlings, sincere, smiling faces? How often is it truth what we see in other’s people imagination? Is it possible for us to understand their character even after several years of acquaintance? Whether is it possible to learn the person and each trifle about him after 30-40 years of cohabitation?”

the Labyrinth of minotaur

Proceeding from own experience, I can absolutely declare you that a proverb «Not all - that gold that shines» - the real truth.

I have faced rather big problems during my life, only because of my too quick conclusions about other people.

Soon as my life has shown me that my friends appeared to foes, and my enemies became my best friends.

What a paradox? Why cannot we identify at first sight, Is this your person, or not? Is it better not to start the friendship, instead of being disappointed? 

But the truth is different.  We haven’t bad or good people, as well as we haven’t malicious or kind one. Simply we are all different, for someone that we feel awful, is perfect in the world. 

The question is still open. Why do we occasionally stumble on the wall of disappointments, misunderstandings and so on?

Personally I consider that all it depends on how the person will put himself. I absolutely agree that at the first meeting you firstly pay attention to the more courageous, cheerful, witty person, rather than on the quiet boy who sits and stares out a window and thinking of something own.

In summary it will be found out that the quiet boy is the coolest break-dancer, or simply very kind and sympathetic little man.

And that person who was the soul of the company, he appears the complete nonentity. That’s because of people’s arrogance and their attention for themselves. This doesn't mean that they are not good people. Sometimes you need to pay attention to the smallest details, associated with people’s actions. Do not hasten to acquaint him with all your friends and parents.  At the end it will be then harder in the case, if he is not your person. For the beginning just try to learn him well and don't hurry up to open yourself completely. The main thing in the person is a riddle.

Listen to your heart, it never deceives you. Mind can be deceived, but the heart never.

I'm not talking only about the relationship between boys and girls, I'm talking about friendship.

So, I decided to turn to a psychologist, who willingly agreed to help me in my little investigation. It is better to say the attempts to unravel this anomaly.

She explained to me that friends do not choose, they become. I think every new friend brings something new. For example: your friend opens to you something new and interesting. So life becomes more perfectly when you know that you have a friend.

Well, what friendships do without quarrels, conflicts, disputes, grievances, etc? If you have quarreled, think of the quarrels reason. And is this person necessary to you? If you aren't right, admit and reconcile. If you aren't confident, or you don't want to be more on friendly terms, than better be as acquaintances, colleagues. If you are ready to say – “Yes, I need this person”, then run and reconcile with your friend, forgotten about arrogance. You see everything from your point of view and he (she) from his (her). Maybe your friend has a problem? Perhaps you didn't know that it’s also become reason of the quarrel.

It is necessary to protect the friends. All of us appear in destinies each of other by chance. We need each other to bring something new, to teach, to learn and to make each other happy. Take care of friends, as they are the closest people, just like mum and dad who supplement us, learn, build each part in our heart and do us happier, more beautiful and better!

Love Roxi.M